Here are some ways to deal with your regrets and move on
It’s true what they say, “Even the most well-planned plans can go wrong.” No matter how hard you try to make your wedding perfect, it’s a fact that every wedding is unique. You might feel regret if your wedding did not go as planned. Experts say that regret is more common than you might think.
Kevon Owen M.S.L.C., LPC points out that our culture teaches us that a perfect wedding day is essential. He says that “difficult relatives will still be hard; it’s who and a day won’t change” “Sound equipment does not always work.” Your guests may not be as sensitive to your timetable as you would like. Stephanie Macadaan, LMFT, creator of the Happy Couple Plan, says that regrets about a wedding can be caused by prioritizing other people’s needs and feeling pressured to create something that is not authentic and genuine for you as a couple.
You don’t have the right to live with regret about your wedding. These are the top-rated ways to move past regret and live happily ever again.
Discuss it with your partner.
Once you recognize that you have regrets about your wedding, you can “clearly identify the problem and talk to your partner about it,” Macadaan says. “My formula for this conversation is being open and curious, expressing your feelings and then asking your partner how they feel.”
Allow yourself to feel your emotions and to grieve.
Next, you need to work through any feelings of regret. Macadaan states that these feelings could include guilt, anger, sadness and even guilt. It is important to recognize these emotions and allow yourself to feel and express them. This will help you get through them. There’s nothing wrong with feeling them! Macadaan says that it is important to understand that grieving can occur for elements of the wedding you wish you had or that you regret. Give yourself plenty of time to grieve before you decide it’s time for you to move on.
Make sure you don’t make the same mistakes again.
Once you have worked through your emotions it is time to move on. Macadaan says, “Make sense of the circumstances and how it came about so you can make adjustments in the future and avoid repeating these mistakes throughout your relationship.”
It’s okay to have a good time.
Owen recommends that you learn to laugh about what went wrong as a final step. Owen says that regret is a core element of regret, but they are also essential elements to comedy. Have fun with it. He says, “What else can you do?”